Weddings @ St. Thomas

At St. Thomas, couples work together with clergy to make a wedding a meaningful, joyous event – a sacrament as well as a gathering of those who will support the couple. The process encourages couples to seek a closer relationship with God and the Church.

We are honored and delighted that you are considering our church to be the setting for one of the most important events in your life. God cares about you, your marriage, and your happiness. Regardless of where you find yourself on your spiritual journey or how well you know us, we want to assist you, to the best of our ability, in making your wedding a very special day! We want to help you design the most meaningful, worshipful, and joyful ceremony possible using the resources of the Christian faith within the context of the rich tradition of the Episcopal Church.                         Wedding Resources

Although we don’t require that you become a part of our community before getting married, we do hope that you will give us serious consideration as a potential church home during the time you prepare for marriage. We ask couples to take the follow steps to arrange a wedding at St. Thomas.

Step 1: Decide if St. Thomas is the right place for your wedding
Your first step is to call the office for general information and questions regarding the availability of facilities and clergy.

Step 2: Meet with the Rev. Steve Best
You next step is to contact Steve Best to set up an in-person meeting. He’ll ask you about your plans, tell you about St. Thomas, and find out who you would like to officiate at your ceremony.

Step 3: Complete the necessary paperwork
Our wedding brochure includes information about fees, music, attendants, and basic requirements. It also provides guidelines for photographers and florists. After reading these details, you’ll complete the wedding information form and the Declaration of Intention.

Step 4: Learn more about the church
We ask you to attend a fun and friendly three-session class called "Welcome to St. Thomas" that reviews the basics of the Christian faith and the Episcopal Church. You’ll also have an opportunity to meet the staff and others who are considering membership at St. Thomas. (The class is offered twice a year, in the fall and spring.)

Step 5: Meet with our couples counselor
While your wedding is very important to us, the health of your relationship after marriage is even more important to us. Once married, couples often need help living into the vows they have taken and need practical skills to help keep their love alive. By working with a premarital counselor, you will be assisted in identifying your strengths as a couple, and to nurture ways in which your marriage can become the fulfilling, lifelong relationship which God intended it to be.

Step 6: Meet with the clergy member who will preside at your wedding
You’ll discuss the details of the service, select scripture readings, and discuss any spiritual questions you might have. This meeting should happen at least several weeks before your wedding.

Step 7: Plan your music
At least one month before the ceremony, meet with Charles Rus, Associate for Music & Liturgical Arts, to select your music.